The Bane of Man
Or at least of this man, is of course women.
"Can't live with them; Can't live without them."
Or in my case,
"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle"
is probably more apt.
"Can't live with them; Can't live without them."
Or in my case,
"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle"
is probably more apt.
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I hear ya, man. I haven't exactly had lots of luck with women (I mean, there are reasons, one very big one in particular), but I've tried to keep an even keel about the whole thing. I've spent a lot of energy making sure I didn't end up depressed over my situation, but it still happens from time to time. I'm not the best with emotions, period, no need to pick one over the other in my case.
Anyway, I see it as part of the hand I've been dealt, and I'm trying to play it the best I can. What more can I do? It's not like I can ask for a new deck.
Sorry, any time things like this come up I get... well, like you, I guess. Anyway, just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
Off topic: I just previewed and noticed that my name was written in all lowercase letters. WTF is up with that? I capitalized the first letter of my name, like I always do!
Thanks, Glenn.
I try to stay positive about things. I really do. I just needed to get that off my chest.
I look at it in several ways. 1) Pennance for bad things I have done in the past 2) Character building 3)Ego reducing 4) A great teacher.
I just wonder when 1) I'll have done enough pennance 2) built enough character 3) destroyed my ego enough, and 4) learned enough to move on to another stage in life! :p
Hahahaha, those are good questions!
最近は、男性の方が結婚を焦るんでしょうか？
優雅に、楽しく生きている独身女性が多いですよね、確かに。
私の悪友だった二人も、未だに独身です。（年齢はご想像におまかせ！（笑））一緒に老人ホームに入ろうなんて話してます。（私の場合、主人が先にいったら、参加するつもりです。(( ´∀｀)ヵヵヵ )）
まあ、結婚してもしなくても、人生、暗中模索です。
友達たちとは、死ぬちょっと前に人生を振り返ったときに、「楽しかったね、と思えればいいね」っていってます。
I'm really glad you are opening up on your blog. When people write honestly it makes it so much more interesting. As for you're girl troubles, I hold the philosophy that with billions of people in this world, you will meet someone who genuinly cares for you and that will amke you happy. I have also found that if you go looking for a girlfriend you will ultimatrly end up with nothing, but if you just "go with the flow" so to speak girls will usually pop up and it will be a total surprise. So good luckw ith your love life. Your an interesting guy you will find someone.
I'm glad that you were able to get that off your chest. Sometimes I feel similarly. I too have had only one serious love in my life and that ended, what, five years ago? Man. But for that four and a half years (well, most of it) until the break-up, I drank from the fountain of that happiness. And it was good.
I think I probably have more of a mathematically chaotic view of the world. The world is the matrix in which we play and it simply takes the right congruence of an multitude of factors to stumble into something special. With some folks, it happens quickly; with some, it never happens; and with others, like us, apparently, it's taking some time. (Please, somebody reboot this Matrix.) The one girl that I'm interested in has a boyfriend already, and even if circumstances led to us getting together, we're soon going to have to return to two different countries on opposite sides of the world before too long, so there's not much long-term viability there.
The two of us—we're hot goods, man. We can't despair. I do actually kind of agree with Matthew in that the time can be smoother if you're not actively looking and you're trying not to worry about it. But at the same time, you can increase your odds by being more proactive as well. Two paths, I suppose.
I'm awesome. Now I just need a female, who is also awesome, to subscribe to that view as well.
Wow, what a reaction!
This is just a little recurring issue with me, but I'm fine. I'm used to my current situation, but that doesn't mean I have to like it, right!
I'm not sure if you remember me, but I'm one of J's friends from the states.
[I'm kind of sorry that I haven't been checking your blog more often, as it seems rather interesting.]
As a woman, I have to disagree with you. I know I can't speak for all women, but from my experience, the women that I've met and gotten to know, including myself, need companionship and a person to love just as much any men. To say that a woman does not need a man seems like a terrible misconception.
I can, however, understand how such a misconception can be arrived upon.
In the cultures I've experience, and I have a feeling the Japanese is not exception to this; men are expected to be the aggressor. Those who do not like being the aggressor, such as J and yourself, will be at a distinct disadvantage.
Naturally passive people also have a harder time coming across as confident, which a lot of women look for. Think about it, instinctively, women are looking for someone who they can depend on and to provide for them and eventually, their children. If you don't come across as confident, then they have no reason to be confident in you.
After a few rejections, anyone would find it difficult not to become bitter.
Those who fit under this category are working against cultural and evolutionary forces, which are both very powerful and difficult to overcome. This does not mean that there isn't a single woman out there that would not be compatible with them. It means that they will have to look harder, or find ways to communicate their inherent worth to others in more effective ways.
I personally don't like people who are overly aggressive or lacking in subtlety in general. However, I do believe seeming confident is a must. It comes more naturally to jerks, which is why they get more women.
If you believe that looking for a girl instead of waiting for one makes it not "smooth" or "natural" or what have you, and simply stop looking, then you have even worse chances of finding a person you're compatible with. It's like hoping to get rich by waiting for money to fall in your lap.
Love is like money; it has to be earned.
So thus has Woman spoken.
One of my many issues is an unwillingness to sort through the "trash" to find the gold. But you don't find the treasure by just sitting around, eh?
I'm sorry. I go through a cycle of sorts where it really bothers me and I have to reach out, and then other times when I really don't want to talk about it at all. I am currently at the latter, but I will say this:
It's not for a complete lack of chances, but rather for a certain standard that I have. In other words, I have to be interested. I am sad that I don't have a girlfriend, but I am simply not interested in the vast majority of people I meet. But it'll happen some day. I'm sure of that much.
You sound... so much like Jonathan. It's kind of freaky. 0_0
Jonathan's good people!
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